Bi visibility? I'm here for it.

Let's talk about bisexuality, weddings and the rather persistent problem of bi-erasure.

Because bisexual people get married too - in fact almost all of my couples (or one half of them) have been bisexual or queer. And yet, when we talk about LGBTQ+ representation in the wedding industry, bisexuality can sometimes feel like the forgotten middle child.

There's a particular assumption that seems to follow people into marriage: that the gender of the person you're marrying somehow tells the world everything it needs to know about your sexuality.

A woman marries a man? She's straight.

A man marries a woman? He's straight.

A woman marries a woman? She's a lesbian.

A man marries a man? He’s gay.

And just like that, bisexuality disappears from the conversation.

But that's not how sexuality works, is it?

Committing to one person doesn't mean you've stopped being attracted to other genders.

You don't suddenly become straight because you're marrying a man. You don't suddenly become a lesbian because you're marrying a woman. And your bisexuality doesn't become any less valid because your relationship fits someone else's idea of what a heterosexual or same-sex relationship looks like.

Marriage doesn't rewrite your sexuality. Monogamy doesn't cancel out bisexuality. And being in a committed relationship doesn't mean you've somehow graduated out of being queer.

Visibility should be a choice, not an obligation.

So, how can we bring a little bi visibility into your wedding ceremony?

Now, this is where things get fun.

For some couples- me simply knowing you’re bisexual will be enough.
Whether you want a subtle nod to your sexuality or you're ready to go full bi-flag fabulous, there are plenty of ways to weave your identity into your wedding ceremony.

And it doesn't have to mean turning your entire wedding pink, purple and blue (although, frankly, I'm not going to stop you).

For the subtle romantics, we could:

• Incorporate the bisexual flag colours into your handfasting ribbons, perhaps through coloured threads woven into the fabric.

• Introduce touches of pink, purple and blue through your flowers, buttonholes or ceremony styling.

• Choose bridesmaid or wedding party outfits that incorporate the bi-flag palette.

• Include a little personal symbolism in your ceremony rituals, readings or promises.

• Keep something meaningful tucked away in your ceremony details that might only be recognised by those in the know.

For the loud-and-proud divas:

• Make the bisexual flag colours a feature of your ceremony styling.

• Weave the history and significance of bisexuality into your ceremony script.

• Include a reading, poem or personal tribute that celebrates bisexual identity.

• Talk openly about your experiences of being bisexual, what it means to you and how it has shaped your relationship.

• And, if you'll let me, I'll happily see how many times I can get the word bi into your ceremony script. Bi, bisexual, bi-cycle… you get the idea.

Or perhaps you'd like to do something in between. A little symbolism, a little storytelling and a moment that acknowledges who you are without making your entire ceremony about your sexuality.

There's no right or wrong way to do it.

You might want your guests to recognise exactly what you're celebrating, or you might prefer something that's personal to you and your partner. You might want to make a statement, share a story, have a little giggle or simply see a bit of yourself reflected in the details.

Whatever feels right, I'm here for it.

And if you're not quite sure what that looks like yet, that's what we're here to explore together. I'll bring the ideas; you bring the bisexual brilliance.

Subtle, symbolic or unapologetically bi. There's room for all of it.